You lead the group and you need it to see you
Your Sun burns Leo-style from the 11th house, which puts a strongly individual temperament into the one arena built around the collective. You want to belong and you want to be distinguishable inside the belonging. You need groups generous enough to have room for a personality in them.
This is a real tension rather than a fault, and most of the trouble here comes from pretending it is not there. Named honestly, it is easy to arrange for. Unnamed, it comes out as friction about seating plans and credit.
Extravagantly good to your friends
You are the friend who remembers the occasion, funds the thing, throws the party and shows up in the crisis with something practical. People know they are lucky to have you. Watch only the accounting that goes on quietly underneath, because generosity with a ledger attached eventually presents its bill, and nobody knew they had signed anything.
Movements without a face lose you
Abstract collective causes leave you unmoved; a person you can champion pulls you in immediately. That is why your involvements tend to follow individuals rather than issues. It is a legitimate way to engage and it has one weakness, which is that your commitment can end when the person does. Attach yourself to the work as well as to the leader.
Being one of many is genuinely uncomfortable
A room where you are simply another member takes real effort, and the discomfort is not vanity so much as a mismatch of wiring. You can develop the tolerance, and it is worth developing, because the alternative is a life spent only in groups you dominate. Practise in low stakes: attend something regularly where you have no role at all.
Let the thing be larger than you
The most satisfying version of this placement is building something collective that outgrows your involvement in it: the group that keeps meeting, the project that runs without you, the friends who are now friends with each other. That requires stepping back on purpose while it is still yours. Name a successor early and mean it.
The centre of the circle, by acclamation
Groups arrange themselves around you without anybody deciding to, because you supply energy, plans and warmth. It is a real gift to a set of friendships. The maintenance is asking, once in a while, what somebody else would like to do, and then doing it their way without improving on it. That single restraint is what keeps a circle from turning into a following.
Known within your field, not just your firm
Your professional network works best when it is public: the association, the conference, the community where people know your name. Invest there rather than only inside your employer, and take the unpaid speaking slot when it is offered. A reputation among peers is more portable than any internal standing, and it will outlast several jobs and at least one industry downturn.
The audience arrives with the relationship
Because your social life is so populated, a partner joins a whole world rather than just you, and that world has opinions. Protect a private channel from the beginning. Decide together what belongs to the two of you and stays there, because your default is to share the good news with everybody by Thursday.
The one who covers the group
Shared costs among friends tend to fall on you, partly because you offer and partly because you cannot bear the awkwardness. That is generous and it is worth capping. Suggest a system rather than absorbing the difference, since a group that never has to settle up will let you go on paying indefinitely.
Standing out and belonging, both
The long work is discovering that recognition inside a group is available without dominating it, which is not obvious to you and takes evidence rather than argument. Try one year in a collective where you deliberately hold no position, and notice whether you are still valued. You will be, and that finding changes the next twenty years.