Home is wherever the talking happens
Because your Gemini Sun works out of the 4th house, what makes a place home is the conversation in it rather than the walls. A beautiful silent house leaves you homeless; a small flat with someone worth talking to does not. You need a domestic life with a running commentary in it.
That explains a pattern people find odd about you: you can be deeply attached to a place and still leave it without much grief, provided the people and the talk come too. Roots here travel.
The house that never finishes rearranging
Rooms change function, furniture migrates, the study becomes a workshop and then a study again. Nothing is ever quite settled and you would not want it to be, because a fixed arrangement starts to feel like a decision made by a previous version of you. Warn whoever lives with you that this is permanent, and keep one room exactly as it is so somebody else has a fixed point.
Where information was the household currency
Look back and there is usually a childhood in which knowing things mattered: news exchanged at the table, opinions expected, or alternatively a house where the real information circulated in whispers and you learned to read the room fast. Either version produced the same skill. It is worth naming which one you had, because the second kind leaves you listening for subtext that is no longer there.
Two places, and both of them count
This placement often produces a divided base: two houses, two countries, a childhood split between households, or a life run out of one city with the heart still in another. That is workable rather than tragic, and the trouble only starts when you treat one as provisional. Give both an actual place in the year and stop waiting to be settled somewhere singular.
Settling down without going quiet
The fear underneath a lot of your domestic hesitation is that putting down roots means the interesting part of life is over. It does not, but you have to build the variety in deliberately rather than hoping it arrives. Choose a household with movement designed into it: people through it, projects in it, a room whose purpose is allowed to keep changing.
The archive is verbal here
What you keep from your family is stories, phrases and the way people said things, rather than objects. You are the one who can still do the voices. That is a real inheritance and it is fragile, because nothing is written down. Record one older relative talking this year, badly, on a phone. It takes an afternoon and it cannot be done later.
Living together means talking together
Domestic peace for you is not quiet; it is a partner who narrates their day and asks about yours. Silence at home reads to you as something being wrong, which can baffle someone who simply likes silence. Say that plainly, and agree a version where they get their quiet and you get twenty minutes of actual conversation.
The house with people passing through
Your home works best as a place with traffic: the friend who stays a fortnight, the neighbour who comes in for coffee, the spare room in constant use. It also means you rarely have the house to yourself. Book two evenings a month where nobody comes, or the traffic will quietly fill every gap you have.
Belonging that is not tied to an address
The long question here is where you are actually from, and the honest answer is likely to be a set of people rather than a location. Once you accept that, the anxiety about settling loses most of its force. Name the four or five people who constitute home for you, and treat maintaining those relationships as the housing decision it really is.