What does the group actually get from you?
Ask it plainly and the answer is not the stated contribution. What people get is somebody who notices when the mood turns and who makes a collection of individuals feel like something. With the South Node in Cancer in your 11th house, you have done that in every group you have joined.
It came to sit here because being needed by a group was how you became part of one. The care is entirely genuine. What has never been necessary is belonging somewhere without a job attached.
What the attunement can do for a collective
You can tell a fortnight in advance which member is about to drift away, where the resentment is forming and which decision will not survive contact with the group. That is genuine collective intelligence and it operates well beneath the level of anything anybody actually says. Several groups have survived periods that should have ended them because of it.
The signal is a circle you cannot leave
Notice what happens when a group stops suiting you. If the thought of stepping away arrives with a sense that everything would fall apart and several people would be hurt, the caretaking has become an obligation rather than a contribution. The concern is usually accurate about the disruption and wrong about the permanence.
People bring you the group's difficulties
Members come to you individually with what they cannot say in the room, which is a considerable trust and makes you the holder of everybody's private position. You end up knowing more than anybody about a collective you hold no formal standing in, and carrying material that nobody else in it has to carry. None of that was ever agreed, by you or by them.
Leave one stretch with no group in it
Capricorn is the far coordinate, in the room where enjoyment is personal, and the development is something of your own that stands without a collective around it. Take a defined period away from every group you belong to. Do not explain the absence or arrange cover for any of it. What turns up in that gap is the entire point of the exercise.
Held together by you
The circles you belong to run on maintenance you have been providing invisibly for years: the messages, the arrangements, the checking in on whoever has gone quiet. It is real labour and it is entirely uncounted. Stop maintaining one group for three months and see which parts of it survive on their own.
The future has other people in it first
When you picture what comes next, the picture is populated: who will be there, how everybody will be doing, what the arrangement will look like. Your own position in it tends to be defined by that. Describe the next five years using only your own preferences. It is harder than it sounds.
The friendship group came first
Romantic attachments in your life tend to grow out of an existing circle and stay embedded in it, which is warm and means the two of you have rarely been alone together anywhere. Make one arrangement that involves nobody else in the circle at all. A relationship needs somewhere it is not being witnessed by people who have opinions about it. Privacy is a condition rather than a secret.
The group's costs land on you
In shared undertakings you cover the gaps, front the money and absorb what nobody claimed, usually without mentioning it. Everybody has assumed it evened out over time and nobody has checked. Put the actual numbers on a page once and circulate them without comment. Facts stated calmly are not an accusation and they change how the next thing gets arranged.
The chosen family, staffed by you
The people you have gathered around you function as a family, and you occupy in it the same position you occupied in the one you were born into. That repetition is worth noticing rather than judging yourself for. Ask somebody in that circle to take on a role you have always held, permanently rather than as a favour. Redistribution has to be requested; it never happens on its own.