There is a sentence of yours people still quote
You can point to a thing you once said that other people have repeated back to you for years. Pluto in Leo in the 3rd house puts real force behind ordinary speech, so your remarks carry further than you intend and land with your name attached to them.
The Leo half here is not personal to you: Pluto stays in one sign across decades and marks that whole birth span with the same seriousness about mattering. The 3rd house is the half your birth time decided, and it is the specific one. It means the need to count is aimed at your voice and your daily exchanges, so being talked over is not a minor irritation for you, it goes straight through.
Where the need to be heard was set
Somewhere early, being listened to was not automatic. Perhaps a louder sibling, perhaps a household where a child's account of events did not count as evidence. What formed was not a wish for attention but a certainty that your version has to be stated forcefully or it will simply be replaced by somebody else's.
The argument becomes about standing
Halfway through a disagreement the subject changes without anyone announcing it: you are no longer discussing the matter, you are defending your right to have an opinion on it. The tell is that winning stops feeling optional. Notice the switch and say it aloud, since naming it is the only thing that puts the original subject back.
Taken for arrogance, running on being dismissed
You state things with confidence and somebody reads it as a claim to superiority. What is actually behind it is an old certainty that a hesitant sentence gets ignored. The cheap fix is asking a genuine question in the first minute of any conversation, which resets the read before the confidence has a chance to be misfiled.
Use the persuasion on something worth persuading
You can hold a room, explain a thing so that people remember it, and change what a group believes. That is a genuine instrument and it is wasted on small territorial contests. Pick one subject a year that you would speak about even if nobody was watching, and spend the instrument there.
You are the story people repeat
You are recalled by what you said rather than by what you did, and your reputation locally travels faster than you do. That is useful and it means careless remarks have unusual range. Assume anything you say in a group will be repeated, and choose accordingly, since the repetition is not a risk here, it is the default.
Finding the thing you are actually for
The through-line here is discovering what you have to say rather than how well you say it, and the second has always come more easily than the first. Delivery has carried you a long way and it has also let you avoid the question. Write something you would never perform, at length, for nobody. It is the fastest route to finding out which of your positions are genuinely yours.
The one whose account got overruled
There is an incident from childhood where you told the truth and were not believed, or where a sibling's version was the one adopted. It is still doing work. Test it in the present: say your account of something small in your family and let it stand without extra force, and observe that it is not overruled now.
Talking as the only real release
Everything discharges through speech for you, and when there is nobody to talk to it stays in the chest and the upper back. The requirement is not company, it is a listener. Keep one person you speak to weekly with no purpose attached, since without an outlet you will carry a fortnight of unsaid material physically.
Being quoted back is how you know
What you need from a partner is evidence that you were actually heard: something you said returned to you later, accurately. Praise is easy to come by and it does not register the same way. Tell them this directly, because most people assume you want applause when what you want is proof of attention.