Nothing about your home is quiet
Nothing in your household happens in silence. Mars in Gemini in the 4th house puts your fastest, most verbal energy behind the front door, so the home is where the debates run, the plans get made out loud, and the arguing has a texture people outside the family would misread entirely.
The sign is why it comes out as words and the house is why it lands on the people you live with. What you are doing is contact rather than conflict, and everybody raised inside it knows that. Anybody arriving from a quieter household does not, and will need it explained more than once.
Somewhere else is always slightly better
You have moved more than most people and you are probably considering it now. The restlessness attaches to the address rather than to the life, and a change of scenery genuinely resets something for you. Before the next one, work out what specifically is not working. Half the time it is answered by rearranging a room, and the other half it really is the place.
The row that is over before the kettle boils
Domestic conflict with you is fast, verbal, occasionally cutting, and then finished. You do not carry it and you are honestly puzzled by anyone who does. The gap in the mechanism is the repair: because it ended for you, nothing gets said afterwards. Go back once and name the sharp line specifically. Twenty seconds closes what silence leaves open for a fortnight.
When you stop talking, something is badly wrong
Your normal setting is commentary, so the household reads your silence as an alarm, correctly. That is a useful signal and it means you have no small gestures available: everything is either the usual noise or a crisis. Give yourself a middle setting. Saying plainly that you are annoyed, in one sentence, is the register you are missing.
What was never said in the house you grew up in
Early on you learned that talking was safe, or that it was dangerous, and either lesson is still running. If your childhood home dealt with difficulty by never naming it, your fluency is partly a countermeasure. Decide deliberately what gets said in the household you run now, including the difficult things, because the default was installed by somebody else.
Arguing is how this family says hello
In your family disagreement functions as intimacy, and outsiders at the table find it alarming. It works because everyone present knows the rules, which have never been written down. Say them to a partner or a newcomer before the first dinner, plainly. Nothing about the tradition needs changing; it simply requires a translator at the door.
The house has to allow one closed door
You need somewhere in your own home where nothing is being said and nobody can find you, and without it the constant verbal traffic keeps the nervous system running past the point of usefulness. Twenty minutes, daily, with a door that shuts. It is not withdrawal from anybody. It is the only setting in which your own thoughts finish.
The relationship is conducted in commentary
You and a partner talk constantly and analyse the relationship inside the relationship, which keeps it honest and can also mean it never simply happens. Some things do not improve by being discussed. Try a week where nothing about the two of you is examined out loud and see what is still there, because you have possibly never tested it.
Working from where you live, badly
The overlap between home and work is where your attention goes to die: the message answered at the table, the room that is both, the day with no edge on either end. Your focus is already the scarce resource. Put a physical boundary in place, even a poor one, because time boundaries do not hold for somebody who thinks in interruptions.
Property decisions made because you were restless
Several of your housing moves were financially neutral at best and were made anyway, because staying had become unbearable rather than because the numbers worked. That is a legitimate reason and it deserves to be identified as the reason. Run the figures for staying and going both, in writing, and then choose the restless option with your eyes open if you still want it.