Home is where the talking happens
Your luck speaks Gemini and does its work in the 4th house, so home is not primarily a refuge but a place where things get said: the kitchen conversation, the arguing, the news exchanged at the table. Silent households flatten you. What this needs is somebody at home who talks back.
The growth here arrives domestically and verbally. What you have learned about people was learned in that house, and a good deal of your working competence was rehearsed there long before it had a name.
More than one place counts as home
You have generally kept two bases in some form: two houses, two cities, a second family, a place you return to that is not the one you live in. It is not restlessness so much as how you are configured. Stop apologising for the arrangement and make both properly habitable, because half-committing to each is what actually costs you.
A childhood spent explaining people to each other
Early on you took the role of interpreter in that household: relaying, softening, working out what the atmosphere meant before anybody said anything. It made you extremely quick at reading rooms. It also taught you to attend to everybody else's state before your own, and that reflex still runs. Notice when you are doing it in a house where nobody needs it.
Rooms that fill with unfinished projects
Your home accumulates the physical residue of curiosity: the half-built thing, the instrument, the boxes from a subject you were serious about for one winter. It is a cheerful sort of clutter and it does take over. Finish or release one project a season, and keep the space that produces the enthusiasm rather than the evidence of it.
You left, and you kept coming back
Departure from the family home happened early or often, and the return happened just as reliably, which has confused everybody including you. Both movements are genuine and neither cancels the other. Treat the coming and going as the arrangement itself rather than as an unresolved question, and it stops needing to be justified each time it happens.
The house is also a workplace
Money and home tend to be entangled for you: the room that became an office, the property let out, the business run from the kitchen table. That mixing is productive and it makes both harder to value clearly. Keep separate records for the two uses, because the arrangement only stays an advantage while you can see which half is paying.
You need to be able to say anything indoors
What makes a home work for you is not comfort but permission: the sense that any subject can be raised without the atmosphere changing for three days. Where that is missing you become quiet in your own house. Agree explicitly that difficult things get said at the table, since for you the alternative is not peace but slow withdrawal.
You rest badly in a silent house
Complete quiet does not settle you; it turns the volume up on your own thinking. A little ordinary noise, another person moving about, something playing, does more for your recovery than stillness ever has. Stop treating that as a failure to relax properly, and arrange the rest you actually need rather than the kind that is recommended.
The house is where your friendships are kept
People come to you and stay for hours, and a large part of your social life happens in your own rooms rather than anywhere public. It is generous and it is also an arrangement where you never quite finish the day. Keep one evening a week when the house belongs only to whoever lives in it.
You hold the family's information
You know who is not speaking to whom, what the letter actually said, and which version of the story each person believes. Nobody appointed you and everybody relies on it. That knowledge is a burden as much as a role. Decline to carry one message this year, and say plainly that the two of them should speak.