Home is arranged on your own terms
Growth reaches you Aquarius-flavoured and it lands in the 4th house, which means the household you have built does not follow the standard pattern: who lives there, how it is organised, what counts as family. Conventional domestic arrangements do not suit you. What this needs is somebody at home who chose the same design.
There is real freedom in this and it has to be constructed rather than inherited. Nothing about the household you came from provided a model, so everything at your address was worked out from first principles, and most of it works.
A family you did not fit into
Early on it was clear that you thought differently from the people you were related to, and the difference was not obviously welcome. You managed by keeping your own counsel. That competence was learned young and it still operates, so notice when you are withholding from people who would actually be interested.
People arrived and stayed
Your household has taken in friends, partners of friends and people between arrangements, on terms nobody would find conventional and everybody has found workable. The door is genuinely open. Nobody signed anything and everybody understood the arrangement. Decide how much of that you want each year, since an arrangement this generous continues by default until somebody reviews it.
Privacy and distance are different things
You need a great deal of time to yourself at home, and the people you live with occasionally experience that as being kept out. The need is real and the interpretation is understandable. You can be genuinely close to somebody and want them out of the room. Say what the solitude is for, since one explanation prevents years of the other reading.
You do not go back very often
Returning to where you came from holds little pull for you and you have not spent much time examining that. The distance is neither a rejection nor an accident. Go back once and look at it as an adult, since a place you left at speed has never actually been assessed and some of what you left may have changed.
You need the household to leave you alone
Recovery for you requires uninterrupted time in your own space, and a household with constant traffic in it prevents that however pleasant the traffic is. It is a genuine requirement rather than antisocial behaviour. Establish one room or one stretch of hours as genuinely yours, since without it you will be tired for reasons nobody can identify.
Your friends are more like family
The people you have gathered function as relatives: they know the practical details, they turn up, they would be told first. That arrangement is real and it has no legal standing whatsoever. Several of them have keys and know where things are kept. Put the important parts in writing, since nothing official recognises a household assembled out of choice.
You did not do it the way they did
Your domestic life departs from the family pattern in ways they find difficult to discuss: the arrangement, the choices, the absence of things that were considered obligatory. Neither side has raised it directly. Say plainly what you have built rather than waiting for them to ask, since the silence is being filled with something less accurate.
You had to invent the whole arrangement
With no usable model for a household, you worked out how one should function from scratch, and most of what you arrived at is better than what you were shown. That is a substantial piece of work nobody has credited. Say what you changed deliberately, since inventions this considered deserve to be described rather than assumed.
The household budget is a joint decision
Money at home is discussed openly and decided together, including with people who would not conventionally be consulted about any of it. That transparency is unusual and it works better than the alternative. Write down what was agreed, since an arrangement this informal depends entirely on everybody remembering the same version of it.