Even your pleasures are taken seriously
Your Venus wears Capricorn and works out of the 5th house, so what other people treat as recreation you treat as something to be done properly. The hobby becomes a discipline, the romance becomes a considered decision, and the enjoyment is real and rarely spontaneous.
This is not an inability to have a good time. It is a preference for the earned kind, and the satisfaction you get from something you have become genuinely competent at outlasts anything that was merely fun at the time.
Courtship conducted properly
You do not improvise a romance. There is a plan, a standard, an evening arranged with actual thought, and nothing about your interest is casual. That seriousness is impressive to the people who want it and alarming to people who wanted something light. Say which you are offering early, since your version is unmistakable once it has started.
What you make is built rather than expressed
Your creative work comes from technique and repetition rather than from inspiration, and you will spend years acquiring a skill before producing anything you consider showable. The results are usually better than the results of people who started sooner. Show something at the halfway point anyway, since your standard for showable may never be met.
Enjoyment has to be in the calendar
Left to chance, pleasure does not happen: there is always something outstanding and the list is never empty. Put the enjoyable thing in as a fixed appointment with the same weight as any obligation, since treated as optional it will be displaced permanently and you have proved that to yourself for years.
With children, structure alongside the affection
You give children reliability, standards and an adult who does what they said they would, which is worth a great deal. What is harder for you is the unproductive play: the game with no point, the mess, the afternoon that achieves nothing. Do that deliberately, since it is the part they remember and the part you find least natural.
You do not need to deserve it first
There is an assumption operating here that affection has to be earned by being useful, reliable or successful, and it is old enough that you have never examined it. Nobody who loves you is applying that test. Accept one piece of unearned warmth without deflecting it, since deflecting is what you do and it is read as refusal.
Craft that took years and now pays
Your professional strength is depth acquired slowly: something you are properly good at because you kept at it long after other people stopped. That is where your money and your standing come from. Protect the time it takes and let the reputation do the selling, since your work is considerably better than your account of it.
The parent who follows through
What you said would happen, happens, and children read that as safety long before they can put a name to it. The half your instincts do not supply is praise with nothing attached: the compliment on a day when nothing was achieved, the affection that is not a response to effort. Give it on purpose, on the ordinary days. A child met only ever on results grows up unable to rest on any of them.
You socialise around an activity
Company is easier for you with something to do: the shared pursuit, the class, the project. Purely social evenings leave you formal and slightly at a loss. Organise your friendships that way rather than persisting with the standard arrangement, since the version with a task in it is where you are actually good company.
The lightness you decided was not for you
Somewhere early you concluded that frivolity belonged to other people, and the decision has stood ever since without once being reviewed. It is reviewable. Take up something with no purpose, no standard and no prospect of your ever getting good at it, and stay with it long enough to stop feeling absurd, since that discomfort is the entire exercise.