Home is the actual subject, not a metaphor
What you love runs Cancer-deep and it goes to work in the 4th house, which is the ground this sign already understands. There is no translation to do here: the thing you want and the place you want it are the same, and your whole affection points at the household.
That means the domestic is not a background to your life. It is the project. Meals, rooms, who is coming at the weekend, whether everybody is all right: this is where your best energy goes, and it deserves to be counted as an achievement rather than as something you do around the edges.
Feeding people is the whole language
You express nearly everything through food: welcome, apology, worry, celebration and grief all arrive at the table in some form. Nobody in your house has ever had to ask whether they were wanted. Say a few of those things in words as well, since the people who did not grow up like this can eat your cooking for years without translating it.
Ancestry that is still in the room
Grandparents, old photographs, the recipe in somebody's handwriting: your sense of where you come from is active rather than historical, and it informs how you run your own household. This is a genuine inheritance. Choose which parts you are keeping on purpose, because some of what came down the line was never examined and is being repeated by default.
Rooms arranged for whoever else is in them
Your home is organised around the comfort of visitors and family: the good chair given away, the spare room kept ready, the arrangements made for other people's habits. Everyone notices how welcome they feel. Give yourself one space in your own house that is arranged entirely for you, since at present there may not be one.
Leaving anywhere takes you years
Houses, towns and arrangements keep hold of you long after they have stopped working, because for you a place holds people and time as well as furniture. Moving is genuinely a form of loss. Take something physical with you and let the grief be actual grief, rather than concluding that a normal reluctance means you should not go.
Living together is the real declaration
For you the meaningful step is domestic rather than ceremonial: sharing a kitchen, knowing how they take their tea, the ordinary evening. That is where the commitment actually lives. Make sure a partner understands what you are offering, because it looks like practicality from outside and it is, in your vocabulary, the largest thing you can say.
The house that everybody ends up at
Your place becomes the default: people drop in, stay too long, arrive when something has gone wrong. That is exactly what you wanted and it means you rarely go anywhere. Accept two invitations a season out, deliberately, so that the friendships are not entirely conducted on your ground and at your expense.
You cannot settle while somebody at home is unhappy
Your own condition tracks the atmosphere of the household with uncomfortable precision. If anybody under your roof is unsettled you will not sleep well, however little the situation has to do with you. Naming it helps more than absorbing it. Say out loud that you can feel something is wrong and ask directly, because the guessing costs you far more rest than any answer would.
Work that lets you get home
A job that keeps you away, however good, will eventually be given up, and you should build that into your planning rather than discovering it at the third posting. Choose the version with proximity in it. You will do better work for longer in a role that is slightly less ambitious and lets you eat dinner in your own house.
The one who holds the whole household together
You are the emotional infrastructure of your family: the one who notices, who smooths, who carries what has not been said. It is enormous work and it is entirely unlogged. Ask for one specific thing to be taken over by somebody else, and be prepared to let them do it badly, since the alternative is doing all of it forever.