Two things running: living in it and auditing it
Uranus crossed Virgo between 1961 and 1969, so the instinct to redesign what does not work is common to a span of birth years; the fourth house is where yours went, which means the thing being redesigned is your own home and family arrangement.
That produces two operations happening at once whenever you are at home. Part of you is living there and part of you is assessing how it runs. Both are genuine. It is why you can be entirely content in a place and simultaneously three improvements deep into a plan for it.
Read as critical of the household
The people you live with hear your observations about how things are done as dissatisfaction with them, and it is not that. Fixing something is how your attention to a place expresses itself. Saying that you are enjoying it while you are improving it sounds unnecessary and is exactly the sentence that is missing.
The change arrives when the arrangement stops working
Domestic upheaval here does not come from restlessness. It comes at the point where you have concluded that the current arrangement cannot be made to function, and by then the conclusion is thorough. Everyone else sees a sudden decision. Sharing the assessment while you are still forming it turns a verdict into a discussion, which is what the household actually wanted.
You can make any place run properly
Given a house, a routine and a fortnight, you can have it working better than the people living there thought possible: the systems, the supplies, the small repeated frictions removed. That is genuinely valuable and completely invisible when done well. It is worth knowing it is a skill, because you have almost certainly been treating it as the minimum.
A base that does not require attention
What builds here is a home that runs without needing to be thought about, which is the point of all the engineering and which you rarely stop long enough to use. The purpose of a well-run house is to be lived in inattentively. Taking one whole day where nothing gets improved is the only way to find out whether you have finished.
You were the one who kept it running
In the household you grew up in you almost certainly took on practical responsibility earlier than you should have, and it was probably not remarked on at the time. The competence was real and so was the cost. What is worth examining now is whether the arrangement has quietly persisted into adulthood, because these very rarely end without somebody ending them.
Order in one place lets you be loose everywhere else
You can tolerate a great deal of disorder in your work and your plans provided that the domestic base is in order, and the reverse is not true. That is a useful thing to know about yourself and it is frequently ignored under pressure. When everything feels unmanageable, the leverage is usually at home rather than in the thing that is actually going wrong.
The home is where the habits are decided
Almost everything that affects your health is a domestic arrangement: what is in the kitchen, when the lights go off, whether there is anywhere to move. You know this and tend to attack the behaviour rather than the setting. Changing the arrangement and leaving the willpower out of it works far better and is the approach you would recommend to anybody else.
Sharing a house means sharing your standards
Cohabiting is the hardest part of a relationship for you, because your systems are considered and someone else's are not, and every small deviation registers. This is not about tidiness and it will not be solved by tolerance. Dividing the house into areas with a single owner each, so nobody is negotiating the same drawer twice, is the arrangement that works.
You would rather host than visit
In your own space you know where everything is and can be genuinely relaxed; in other people's you spend the evening noticing how it is arranged. Nobody knows this is happening. Accepting an invitation somewhere and deliberately not looking at the house is a small discipline that makes visiting bearable, and it is worth it because always hosting narrows your life.