Call it working at whatever pace the room is working at
Call it involuntary synchronisation. Neptune in Libra in the 6th house means your daily rhythm is set by the people around you rather than by your own energy, so you are productive beside somebody productive and strangely becalmed beside somebody adrift.
Two facts of different sizes sit here. The era supplied the longing for a perfect arrangement between people; your birth hour supplied the 6th house, and that is where it went to work — on the working day, which is where people are least likely to arrange themselves well.
A workplace with no friction in it
The version you keep aiming at is a team where everyone gets on, nothing is contested, and the work moves because the relationships are good. It does exist occasionally. Most workplaces run on unresolved friction, and treating that as an emergency means you spend your energy on the friction rather than on the work it was interrupting.
The hours that go into keeping it pleasant
Smoothing an exchange, checking on somebody after a difficult meeting, phrasing something so it lands well, sensing a problem forming and heading it off. None of it is on your job description and it consumes a substantial share of your week. Estimate the hours once. Where the number is large, it belongs in a conversation about your role rather than in your evenings.
Your agreeableness is being read as capacity
Because you accept work without visible strain, the assumption is that you have room, and the requests scale accordingly until something breaks. Nobody is exploiting you; they are reading the signal you send. Say no once, plainly, early in a project rather than late, and let people recalibrate. One refusal resets the estimate for a year.
Write down what you agreed to, at the time
In the room, under the influence of somebody wanting something, you agree to more than you intended and remember it as less than you agreed. Write it down as it happens: what you took on, by when, for whom. It gives you an accurate account to negotiate from later, and it will surprise you how often the written version differs from the remembered one.
You have no independent sense of when you are tired
Your reading of your own state is comparative: you feel fine if everyone else is going strong, and depleted if the room is flat. That means the internal signal is unreliable exactly when it matters. Use external markers instead — hours worked, sleep, whether you ate — and stop when the markers say so rather than when you feel entitled to.
Every team improves and nobody can attribute it
Wherever you work, things run more smoothly and the mechanism is invisible, so your contribution is felt rather than recorded, and felt contributions do not survive a change of manager. Write the mechanism down: what you do, when, and what it prevents. It reads oddly at first and it is the only way this becomes something anybody can point to.
Your colleagues are your social life by default
Because work relationships come easily to you, they quietly become the whole of your week, and any change of job removes most of your company at a stroke. It has probably happened once already. Keep two friendships alive that have no connection to where you work, with fixed arrangements, and treat them as infrastructure rather than as leisure.
You accepted the offer rather than negotiating it
Salary conversations require you to sit in an unresolved moment and let it stay uncomfortable, which is the one thing your whole system is built to avoid. So you take what is offered and adjust afterwards. Write your number down beforehand, say it once, and then stop speaking. The silence is the negotiation and it lasts a few seconds.
You are still smoothing things after you get home
The work of keeping everybody comfortable does not end when the working day does; it continues over dinner, at weekends, through family arrangements. The result is a person who is never off duty and cannot say what would count as rest. Take one evening a week with no responsibility for how anybody else is feeling. Say that is what you are doing.