Two things run together: what is shared and what is fair
In your 8th house, joint resources and the principle governing them are the same question. Neptune in Aquarius is what fuses them, so you cannot deal with an inheritance, a debt or a division without it becoming a matter of how these things ought to work in general.
Anyone born close to you in time was handed the same longing for a fairer system; that half is common property. The difference is which door it came through, and yours opens onto the 8th house, where the systems in question are private, small and enforced by nobody.
An arrangement designed from first principles
Given a shared resource, you want a rule that would be right for anybody in the same position: transparent, defensible, not dependent on who is being generous. It is an admirable instinct and most people involved are not operating that way. Design for the actual counterparties rather than for the ideal ones, or you will be the only participant following the rules.
The claim you decline on principle
There are things you were owed and did not pursue because pursuing them felt beneath you, or because the whole arrangement seemed compromised. The principle is genuine and the cost is real and entirely yours. Being right about the system does not compensate anybody. Take what you are actually owed, and hold the critique separately.
They read the detachment as not caring
Your ability to remain analytical during a loss or a division is a real asset and it looks, to people in distress, like indifference. They then stop bringing things to you. Say the feeling out loud even when it is not driving your behaviour: that this matters to you too. It costs a sentence and it keeps you in the room.
Record the agreement as it was actually made
Because you deal in principles, you tend to remember what the arrangement should have been rather than what was agreed, and the other party remembers something else again. Write the actual terms down at the time, in their words as well as yours. It is the one document that survives everybody's subsequent reconstruction.
You will not claim from a system you disapprove of
Where money is available through an arrangement you find unjust — an inheritance, a settlement, an entitlement — your instinct is to decline it, and the declining costs you and assists nobody. The arrangement continues in either case. Take what you are entitled to and direct part of it at the thing you actually believe in. Refusing is a gesture; redirecting is an action.
You will discuss intimacy more readily than you enter it
You can talk about desire, closeness and what the two of you are doing with unusual openness, and the openness of the discussion is not the same as the exposure of the act. A partner may find the conversations frank and the person still slightly out of reach. Be inarticulate about something once. That is the register you are missing.
You survive things by understanding them
Your route through a crisis is comprehension: you work out what happened, why, and what it means structurally, and it genuinely gets you through. It also means each hard passage leaves a good analysis and an undigested residue. Give one of them the other treatment — talk about it without explaining it — and see what is still there underneath.
You take an interest in your body without inhabiting it
When something is wrong, you research the mechanism thoroughly and remain oddly disconnected from the experience of it, which produces good decisions and delayed action. The missing input is sensation. Ask how it feels, not what it is, once a day for a week. That question is harder for you than any amount of reading.
You are unshockable, and people bring you the worst of it
Nothing anybody discloses appears to unsettle you, so you receive confidences that others would not be trusted with, and you hold them well. The accumulation is real even where each item is handled easily. Notice when the volume is affecting you, since your usual instrument for detecting that is exactly the one being bypassed.