You register what was never said
Because your Mercury reads in Cancer and applies it to the 8th house, you have always been able to feel the shape of what a room is not discussing. The withheld thing has an atmosphere and you have been reading it since you were small.
That makes you unusually perceptive about people in difficulty and unusually loaded, because you take the weight of things nobody has admitted to you. Both come from exactly the same faculty.
Money with somebody in it is never only money
A shared account, a loan between friends, an inheritance being divided — none of these register to you as arithmetic. They are questions about care, obligation and who is being valued, and you respond to that layer. It is accurate and it makes the practical conversation harder. Do the numbers separately, on paper, before you have the conversation about what they mean.
People trust you with what they hide
You get told things that have never been said aloud before, in part because your attention has no judgement in it and in part because people can feel that you already partly knew. That is a considerable position of trust. It also accumulates. Notice how much of other people's undisclosed material you are holding, and that nobody has ever asked whether you had room.
The old material has not finished running
Something from early in your life is still setting your responses in this department: what happened around money, or a loss, or a silence you were too young to be told about. It is not a memory, it is an operating assumption. Ask what actually occurred, of whoever will still answer. A fact is far lighter to carry than an atmosphere.
Letting somebody in is the whole risk
Real closeness requires being known rather than only knowing, and this is precisely where you proceed carefully, because being seen incompletely on some earlier occasion taught you exactly what that costs. The caution is warranted and it was earned honestly. Just notice that it is now being applied to people who have given you no reason for it, and that the policy has outlived the situation that produced it. Go first with one of them, deliberately, on a small thing.
You process it by going under, not through
Difficult periods take you inward and downward rather than forward: you withdraw, absorb, and re-emerge changed some months later. That is a genuine method rather than avoidance and it works, provided somebody knows where you are. Tell one person that you are in one of those stretches. It costs you nothing and it is the difference between a retreat and a disappearance.
The loss nobody in the house discussed
There is something that happened to your family — a death, a departure, a reversal — that shaped everybody and was never processed aloud, and you have been carrying a share of it that was never allocated to you. Name it to somebody outside the family. It is remarkably hard to see the shape of a silence from inside the house that produced it.
Security means somebody cannot take it
What you want from shared financial arrangements is not advantage but protection: the certainty that a person you depend on could not leave you exposed. That is a legitimate requirement and it needs stating rather than manoeuvring for. Ask for the arrangement in plain words. Getting it explicitly is the only version that settles the underlying question.
Closeness means being able to say the worst thing
What you actually want from intimacy is a person you could say the unflattering, frightening or shameful thing to and still be held afterwards. Nothing less than that registers as close, whatever else is going well. Test it early and in small amounts rather than saving the disclosure for a crisis, because a crisis is a poor time to discover the answer.